Healing a marriage is finding the meaning in four different ways of thinking; “me”, “you”, “us” and “we” thinking. Healing a marriage is achieving a balance between the individual’s vision and the couple’s vision. Healing a marriage is a cooperative and complimentary pursuit of decision-making opportunities and the distribution of power for the sake of mutual gain. Healing a marriage means overcoming the obstacles that prevent the couple to trust, bond and form a stronger union. Healing a marriage means infusing new meaning into conflict and trauma laden memories that have formed self-defeating patterns leading to the disintegration of a marriage. Healing a marriage means diligently working towards understanding 100% of your partner’s communication. Keeping in mind that 50% is the subject matter and the other 50% is what your partner is trying to tell you about her or himself. Healing a marriage means learning to better communicate to your partner, your visions, goals, values, principles, purpose, intent, disappointments and inadequacies so that your partner can help you replenish and move forward. Healing your marriage means gaining greater ease with being together and being apart – looking forward to alone time and eagerly anticipating being together.
Forming a marriage alliance is the practice of strengthening your union by reinforcing an enduring set of expressive patterns that excite the interest of each partner. “Newness” re-ignites the passion that brought you together in the first place. Make it your commitment to learn something new about your partner each and every day. The same old “knowingness” cannot sustain a vital marriage. Taking your marriage to the highest level means that both of you learn to become selfless by sacrificing for and what is in the best interest of your partner. Heal your marriage and create a formidable alliance that cannot be compromised and can therefore stand the test of every challenge – self made or presented.